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Scott’s SAHD Journey: Sales to Teaching to Epic Chocolates

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Scott D of Epic Chocolates

“Honey, after this, no more, ok?  You need to spend time with your family this Christmas.”

“I guess,” I reluctantly replied.  “It’s just that this is my busy season.  And hey, you know what you married!”

“You were a Teacher when we met, not a Chocolatier,” my wife replied, her eyes rolling a little.

Plastics: To Use or Not To Use

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Is BPA Free Plastic safe?

Plastics have played an enormous role in increasing our quality of life. There is practically nothing that we do that hasn’t been improved or made possible by plastics… so the importance is not really up for debate. The concern, however, is whether it is safe to use plastics which come into contact with our food and our developing children.

Parent Review: Super Mario Run

Availability: iOS, Android

There’s no question that 2016 has been Nintendo’s year. The gaming giant went from a summer full of Pokemon hunting to a fall full of reveals and rumors about both their next console in development, and their miniature classic Nintendo Entertainment System that’s already available–if you can actually track one down. Now, with winter in full swing, Super Mario Run has taken over the app stores. 

SAHD “Developing A New Identity”

If anyone would have told me 7 years ago that I would no longer be employed and I would be a stay at home dad I would have said your crazy. So what happened to me?

(back story)

I married a doctor. My wife is a beautiful intelligent pediatrician and I am a former pediatric nurse. I actually went into nursing because I love helping others and I like the diversity of the career. In my 10 years of working I’ve worked in the cardiac cath lab, travel nursed, switched and got a floor job at Arkansas Children’s Hospital. After 2.5 years of that I got bored and moved into the float pool and worked all the ICU’s, ER, Burn Unit, and anywhere they needed me. It was pretty nice because my wife did her pediatric residency while I was there and she was loved by the nurses and we both were respected more because of each others work and attitude.

After she finished residency we moved a little over an hour from where I worked for her to pursue private practice. So I got a job here in Hot Springs Arkansas working in the operating room since that was one area I haven’t truly worked in. After 4 months into that job I figured out being cussed at for no apparent reason wasn’t my cup of tea so I went back to ACH working part time then I slowly went prn working 2 days a month because with my wife’s call schedule it became too hard to juggle unless we could get additional help of which we didn’t want to do.

My wife and I also decided to adopt a girl to go along with our now 5 year old son and I was going to stay home with her. So my responsibility changed drastically. So here I am now. After discussions with my wife and long dragged out discussions with myself I decided to make it official. I am now a Stay At Home Dad.

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After we moved over an hour from my job, went part time, and my wife started making really good money and myself making practically nothing my identity changed. Since I graduated nursing school in 2005 I’ve cleared +$50,000/year and worked my way into the float team making >$80K and had worked hard to climb the clinical ladder in my profession.

I look around and all my friends work. Some of my friends are mutual friends through my wife and they are doctors and some of their wives still work. So what have I come to? I now have more money than I have ever had but I felt like it wasn’t mine. I became depressed but like most of us we know how to put on a great looking mask and hide it. I joined a Men’s Breakfast offered at my church and I was the main person brining food and cooking. It was fun but still these guys would leave our early morning meeting and go to their jobs and I rushed home so my wife could go to hers. My son started gymnastics and we made some great friends because of it. One of the dads flattered me when he asked if I was a runner? I’m not and told him I don’t like to run because in the past I got shin splints and that was when he said I should go buy a road bike and start biking with him. I looked into that and DAMN THOSE BIKES COST OVER $1000!! and I have to ask my wife for permission to buy one. She with hesitation said yes and I bought one. That was over 2 years ago now. Cycling brought me back to my childhood and I got rid of a lot of stress and became an addict! I have also met some great friends since starting cycling and this past summer I rode Ragbrai where you bike across Iowa (469 miles in a week while tent camping). I’m also healthier and more fit now than I probably was in high school. I started golfing with my dad and taking my kids to see their grandparents more which they love.

I also joined DMD Facebook group where I found guys that I relate to. This has been a great enjoyment to me and my life. There are guys from all walks of life in our group but we are all married to powerful, intelligent, beautiful doctors. I’ve had fun conversations, argued politics, laughed at funny memes, become teary eyed, jealous of a dad that is a stunt driver (you know who you are), and found out that I was not alone.

I’ve come to realize that a job isn’t the main thing that defines me. Is it a part of me? Yes of course. I will always be able to talk medical and maybe someday I will go back into the field. Me being a dad is key for me and my family. Its a sacrifice for my wife and kids that I am willing to make and others apart of this DMD community have shown me that “hey its important and not looked down upon.” I am a man regardless and I’ve been able to find hobbies that I can do that represents that. Run a chainsaw, chop some wood, teach my son how to fish without me having to put the worm on and fish off, be Darth Vader while my son plays Luke strikes me down unlike what happens in he movies, and when my 1 year old daughter gets old enough to attend preschool I may start doing more woodwork or get into something fun and creative. My life is wide open now because a “job” isn’t slowing me down. We work to survive financially and my wife does that so it frees me up to do other things for me and my family. We are blessed and I couldn’t be more happy with my life right now. My wife has a really stressful job and me being there to take off the random stress makes our marriage easier and stronger.

Well its time for me to go wrap some more presents while its nap time. Hope you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. If you are discussing being a SAHD know you will be apart of an elite group of men 😉

Beer Review: Funky Buddha Strawberry Shortcake Beer

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Have you ever wanted to try a Strawberry Shortcake based beer?  Well now, thanks to Funky Buddha Brewery, you have the chance!

For more info on this beer, visit https://funkybuddhabrewery.com/our-beers/little-buddha-small-batch/strawberry-shortcake# 

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The BIG Career Change–from desk to diapers

The Houtz Family

So…you married a doctor. All of your buddies are ‘high-fiving’ you since, now, YOU just made ‘easy street’. Mom and dad are holding that straight face around company, and whisper to one another how smart their boy is behind closed doors. Sure, maybe you won’t have to worry as much about affording braces but like everything in life, nothing good comes free. And there is a cost closing in on those couples planning to have a family.

Maintaining your Manhood

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Dads Married to Doctors Member, Alan Floyd, brings you his Top Tips for Maintaining your Manhood as a Stay at Home Dad.

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Alan admits his view of Manhood may not be the same for everyone!  Do you have some tips for how you maintain your manhood?

Share them with us in the comments below!

How Frozen Should Have Ended

I have 3 girls under 8!  So as you can imagine we have seen Disney’s movie, FROZEN, about 2,753 times.  But that’s ok… here I stand… the song doesn’t bother me anyway! (now the song is stuck in your head…;)

What does bother me, though, is how the movie ended.  Thankfully, the good folks over at HISHE (How It Should Have Ended) felt the same way, and provided a solution, an AWESOME alternate ending!  ENJOY.

This Week in Parenting

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This Week in Parenting is intended to be a weekly look at parenting talk around the web, amongst the DMD community, and occasionally, just stuff I’m dealing with around the house. The language is occasionally strong and the opinions reflect only the author. Let’s dig in. 

Dad Jokes – 11/28/2016

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We’ve all heard them and we all love them!  Here are a few of my favorites this week!

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